In-person in west linn & Online across ORegon
Therapy for kids & parenting
“Some days I feel like I'm failing at the most important job I'll ever have”
“How do I teach them emotional regulation when I'm still learning it myself?”
“How do I give them what I never got when I don't even know what that looks like?”
Sound familiar?
I see you.
The parent who's googling 'how to handle tantrums' at midnight while questioning every decision you've ever made. Who loves your kids fiercely but feels like you're drowning in the hardest job you've ever had. You're not failing - parenting is just really hard when you're also trying to heal yourself.
Maybe you catch yourself saying something your parent used to say and immediately cringe. Maybe you're exhausted from being the emotion coach when your own feelings are all over the place. Maybe you're trying to give your kids the childhood you wish you'd had, but you don't actually know what that looks like because nobody ever showed you. You want to break generational patterns, but it's hard to build something new when you don't have a blueprint.
That thing where you lose it with your kids and then feel terrible about it? Where you're trying to teach them emotional regulation while you're still figuring out your own? That's not hypocrisy - that's being human. Your nervous system is trying to keep everyone safe, but sometimes it's working from old programming that doesn't fit your current family. The patterns you learned growing up made sense then, but they might not be serving you now.
You can learn to regulate yourself AND model that for your kids. You can break cycles without having to figure it all out alone. And you can be a good parent while still being a whole person with your own needs and feelings.
decode
your parenting patterns
The way you respond when your kid melts down, the rules you enforce without thinking, the things you swore you'd never say but somehow do anyway - these aren't accidents. We'll help you understand where your parenting instincts come from and why they made sense, so you can choose what to keep and what to leave behind.
learn
to regulate yourself first
You can't pour from an empty cup, and you can't teach emotional regulation when your own nervous system is running the show. Real tools for staying calm when your kid is losing it, managing your own big feelings, and modeling the emotional skills you want them to learn. Because regulated parents raise regulated kids.
build
the family you actually want
Not the perfect Instagram family, but the one where everyone gets to be human. Where kids feel safe to have big feelings and parents don't have to be perfect. Where you can mess up, repair, and try again without everyone falling apart. The kind of family you maybe didn't grow up in but get to create now.
I’m here to help with:
+ finding balance
+ single parenting stress
+ co-parenting
+ postpartum struggles
+ breaking cycles
+ mom/dad guilt spirals
+ emotional regulation
+ tantrums/meltdowns
If you’re ready to…
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stop parenting from your triggers
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break cycles you didn't choose
03
find yourself beyond "mom" or "dad"
04
raise kids AND keep your sanity
…then let’s get to work.
plot twist:
secure attachment doesn’t require perfection. it’s built in response - and repair.
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My session rate is $195. I don't take insurance directly, but I can provide you with a superbill to submit to your insurance for potential reimbursement - basically, you pay me and then get money back from your insurance company. I know dealing with insurance is the worst, so I'm happy to walk you through how the superbill thing works. I also have a limited number of sliding scale spots available if cost is a barrier.
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Both! For parents, I often work with you individually first - because it's hard to focus on your own stuff when you're also managing little humans in the room. We can talk about parenting challenges, work on your own emotional regulation, and figure out how to break those cycles without tiny ears listening. For kids (ages 6+), I also do individual play therapy and can include parents in sessions when it makes sense. Sometimes the whole family benefits when one person starts doing their own work.
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I get it - there's already so much judgment about parenting everywhere you look, and the last thing you need is more of that here. Here's the truth: every parent loses it sometimes. Every parent has moments they wish they could do over. Every parent questions if they're screwing up their kids. You're not coming here to get graded on your parenting - you're coming to figure out how to do it in a way that feels better for everyone. No judgment, just real support for the hardest job you'll ever have.