In-person in west linn & online across oregon
therapy for family conflict
Families are like group projects — you can do everything right and still end up not on the same page.
You can love your family and still need things to change. Both can be true.
Families shape how we learn to love, communicate, and protect ourselves — and sometimes those lessons get tangled. You might be the peacemaker who keeps everyone calm, the fixer who can’t rest until things are okay, or the quiet one who stays invisible to avoid conflict. Over time, those roles start feeling less like choices and more like obligations.
Therapy is a space to notice those patterns and understand how they’ve been running the show — not to blame anyone, but to break the cycles that keep you stuck. We’ll work on setting boundaries that don’t burn bridges, finding language for what’s been unsaid, and learning how to stay connected without losing yourself in the process.
Because healing in families isn’t about winning. It’s about finally being seen, heard, and safe.
what i do
therapy is about:
Helping you notice the patterns underneath the arguments
Naming what’s really happening without making anyone the villain
Slowing things down so everyone actually feels heard
Making space for repair — not just resolution
Helping you set boundaries that protect connection instead of destroy it
Holding compassion for every version of you that had to adapt to your family system
what i don’t do
therapy isn’t about:
Picking sides or deciding who’s right
Forcing forgiveness before you’re ready
Pretending the past didn’t shape the present
Shaming anyone for how they’ve coped or survived
Trying to make everyone “get along” at the expense of honesty
Minimizing the impact of family patterns because “that’s just how they are”
together, we will:
learn
How your family system shaped the way you show up — what you learned about love, safety, conflict, and belonging. You’ll start to see the invisible rules you’ve been following, and which ones you’re ready to rewrite.
understand
The patterns that keep pulling you back into the same arguments or shutdowns. We’ll look at how everyone’s nervous systems react to stress and what’s really driving the disconnect underneath the surface.
connect
In ways that feel honest, not performative. We’ll practice communication that doesn’t rely on walking on eggshells or bottling things up — and build a foundation where connection and self-respect can coexist.
THE PROCESS
Healing in families isn’t about fixing people — it’s about breaking patterns that don’t let anyone grow.
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Reach out: Click the link to schedule a consult or send me a message. We’ll talk about what’s been happening, what’s feeling stuck, and what you’re hoping could feel different. No pressure, no taking sides — just a starting point.
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Map the system: We’ll start by understanding how your family operates — the roles, the unspoken rules, and the stories everyone’s been carrying. This isn’t about blame; it’s about seeing the full picture so change can actually stick.
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Repair and recalibrate: We’ll work through patterns of disconnection — the fights, shutdowns, silences — and start experimenting with new ways of communicating and setting boundaries that don’t turn everything into an explosion.
04
Build new patterns: Whether it’s creating new boundaries, learning to reconnect safely, or finding peace from a distance, we’ll build something that feels honest and sustainable — connection that doesn’t cost you your sense of self.
curious about working together?
starting therapy shouldn’t feel like another stressor.
Option 2
Hate phone calls? Relatable. You can skip that step and send me a message instead. I’ll send over a quick screener form, and if it looks like a good fit, we’ll move forward with scheduling.
Option 1
Click below to schedule a free consultation call. We’ll talk through what you’re looking for, you’ll get a feel for me and how I work, and if it seems like a good fit, we’ll get your first session on the books.
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That’s really common. Change in one part of the system still impacts the whole system — so even if only one person is in therapy, things can shift. We’ll focus on what you can control and how to stay grounded when others aren’t ready to meet you there.
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Nope. My role isn’t to decide who’s right — it’s to help everyone understand what’s happening underneath the surface and why things keep looping the same way. I’m here to make sense of the patterns, not assign blame.
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Yes — but probably not in the “everything’s perfect now” way. Progress often looks like more awareness, more choice, and less reactivity. That’s how healing starts: by making small changes that stop repeating the same old story.